Mike on Instagram: "“These words work like an off switch for a child’s anger.” What does NOT work: ❌ “Stop it right now!” ❌ “I’m counting to three!” ❌ “Don’t cry, everything is fine” ❌ Ignoring ❌ Distracting with toys How it was discovered: 5-year-old Jack had a meltdown for 40 minutes. Nothing helped. In desperation, Jameson said one short phrase. The child instantly calmed down and came over for a hug. How it works: A meltdown is a loss of control. The child gets scared of their own emotions.